October: Preventing Domestic Violence & Bullying

There are two awareness campaigns that take place annually in October that are important to creating a culture of peace in our community and the world.  First it is National Bully Prevention Month and second it is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

These two areas of needed awareness contain similarities and can even be related.

Domestic violence occurs when one person believes they are entitled to control another. 
Bullying occurs with a power imbalance and one person attempts to control another. 
Domestic violence may include spousal relationships, dating, children, elderly abuse
Bullying may involve children, adults, elderly, workplace or domestic relationships
Domestic violence may be physical, verbal, emotional
Bullying may be physical, verbal or emotional
Domestic violence victims may become fearful, depressed, withdrawn, confused etc..
Bullying victims may become depressed, physically sick, sleep deprived, anxious etc..
Domestic violence occurs at a higher rate to those with disabilities.
Bullying occurs at a higher rate to those with disabilities.
Domestic violence victims are many times slow to report their abuse.
Bullying victims are many times slow to report their abuse.


Children who witness domestic violence or are abused themselves in some manner, many times will learn the same behaviors and become the bully and or violent with others.  As they grow older those same children may become abusers in dating, spousal relationships, or even with their own children.

Included in domestic violence is teen dating violence, which is one of the major sources of violence in teen life.  Our goal of education in compassion, awareness and respect is needed in these areas of domestic violence and bullying more than ever – if we are to create a culture of peace in our community and world.  In this month ahead, what can we do to educate ourselves and our children on these topics?  Here at Balanced Life Skills I will be talking to our students and writing on our website about violence and bullying.  As always we are here to help families and individual children develop their own place of peace and be compassionate, aware and respectful of others.

Self Defense – Health – Ovarian Cancer Awareness

I was at a meeting yesterday when I learned some things about women’s health that I believe is important to share with everyone I know and hopefully you will share it with all of the women in your life too.

ovariancancerOvarian Cancer Awareness

Every year over 20,000 women will get ovarian cancer. Ovarian cancer is NOT detected by a PAP Smear. Here though are four symptoms that if you have almost daily for a few weeks you need to see your GYN.

  • Bloating that is persistent
  • Eating less and feeling fuller
  • Abdominal pain
  • Trouble with your bladder

There may be other symptoms too. Check out SHOUT against the whisper on Facebook

This is Self Defense – Protecting Your Health

3 Things I Learned While My Plane Crashed

What would the thoughts be that go through your mind, if you knew that your life was about to come to an end?  What we can be reminded of by someone who went through this experience and lived, can help us to be aware of the preciousness of living our life and being there for others, especially family.  The 3 things this man learned may be the same for you or maybe not.  It does remind us though to pause and ask ourselves … “If I knew I only had a short time to live, how would I live it?”   Here is my reminder – All of us have a short time to live.