With some practice,those feelings of anger that come on us can be calmed down and we can find healthy solutions that are safe and fair to all involved. As an adult we can use 3 questions that will work us through the situation and we can use the same questions to coach our children learn to deal with the anger that they are feeling.
- What is making me feel angry?
- How can I calm down?
- What can I do about this problem?
Those 3 questions preceded with a few calming deep breaths will help us to think through problems and seek solutions. We can use them with our children too and doing so will build in them the understanding that they are response – able for their actions and responses to emotions.